Are You Seeking for Happiness?

° Acara Kawinan yang Kampungan...

Kemaren malam, dari jam tujuh sampai jam sebelas malam aku di paksa ikut ke acara Kawinan salah seorang saudara. Biasanya sih aku menolak... karena tentunya pasti ada Musiknya (mirip musik dangdut). Tapi si Ibu mertua boong sama suami... kalau di situ ga ada Musiknya. Jadilah aku ikut... walaupun sebenarnya tetep gak mau. Acara kawinan adat orang Albania sebenarnya untuk wanita aja.

Jadilah aku memakai gaun seharga 700 Euro ( 9 Juta lebih), gaun itu sama yang aku pakai di waktu nikahanku. Aku punya dua gaun yang harganya bikin aku mau pingsan. Gaun di albania disebut Kaftan.

Dalam tradisi disini, kalau ada undangan pernikahan. Para wanita muda yang sudah menikah maka dalam menghadiri pesta tersebut harus memakai gaun mereka sewaktu menikah. Bukan hanya itu... Tapi gaya rambut dan makeup juga sama aja.

Untuk menata rambut dan make up harus pergi ke Salon. harus ngeluarkan biaya minimal 50 - 100 Euro. Para wanita yang berjilbabpun juga akan melepaskan jilbabnya untuk pertemuan itu.

Tapi aku, tetep aja pakai Jilbab... dan gak usah pakai make up. Hanya pakai Celak or alis mata.
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Sesampai disana ternyata MUSIK yg mirip dangdut menggema, kalau ada telpon masuk kagak denger, padahal Volumenya udah aku Fullkan.

Ya Allaah... Astagfirullah.

Aku mengamati beberapa wanita disana, makeupnya... bajunya... sepatunya... rambutnya... gaya berjalanannya.... Thats totally different than my self!! kenapa aku bisa Join dengan acara seperti ini???

Make upnya kalau ayahku bilang kaya "Nyi Blorong" 7 warna ada di satu kelopak mata. Trus mereka pada nempelin koin emas... ke wajah-wajah mereka. 4 buah kalung emas di leher, jari tangan yang penuh dengan cincin, dan puluhan gelang emas di tangan mereka.

Mereka pada menari... melingkar... dan gaya yang itu itu aja.
Music yang menggelora seperti konser dangdut di kampung-kampung.
Pamer perhiasan dan baju baru...
Trus... pada komentar ttg makanannya... yang ke asinan lah.. ke manisan lah.

Pernikahan yang diperindah dengan hal-hal yang diharamkan oleh Allah...

Ya Allaah... astagfirullaah.

Siapa Cinta BATIK?

"Batik adalah kerajinan yang memiliki nilai seni tinggi dan telah menjadi bagian dari budaya Indonesia (khususnya Jawa) sejak lama". ( Wikipedia)

Suamiku sangat mencintai Indonesia dari sisi Religi sampai pada makanannya, suasananya, tradisi batiknya dan kehidupan yang simple lainnya.

Kalau disini ada orang jelek-jelekin Indonesia... maka suamiku berusaha menampilkan semua sisi kebaikan dari Indonesia. Kadang aku merasa bahwa dia lebih Indonesia dari pada oraNg Indonesia.

Ada beberapa koleksi batik yang dia punya, dari beli di toko Batik Keris ataupun yang di beli di Pasar klewer

Dia tak hanya memakai batik waktu di Indonesia saja (mungkin orang kira: Bule pakai batik di Indonesia supaya lebih diterima oleh masyarakat setempat).

Namun sewaktu dia di Swiss, Turkey ataupun di negara Balkan sini, dia tetap setia memakai Batik yang Made in Indonesia ini. Istilahnya dia ingin memperkenalkan batik kepada seluruh Dunia (Waduh, bahasanya berlebihan kali).

Mencintai batik merupakan salah satu warisan Indonesia yang dapat kita lestarikan.
Tidak salah jika para Ikhwan membuat Gamis, Sarung ataupun Peci dari bahan batik.
Dan para akhwat di rumah memakai Blouse, Tank top, Rok dan atasan batik yang sekarang designnya lucu-lucu dan menawan. Mempercantik diri dirumah untuk sang suami Tercinta.

Jika ingin belanja batik, mungkin link dibawah bisa membantu :
http://www.rumahbatiksolo.com
htpp://www.belanjabatik.com

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HABIT

"Ward of passing thoughts, for if you do not, they will become ideas.

Ward off ideas, for you if you do not, they will become desires.
Fight the desires, for if you do not, they will become resolve and determination.
And if you do not ward them off, they will become actions.
If you do not resist them with its opposite, they will become habits.
And it will be difficult for you to get rid of them."

Taken from Al-Fawaid by Ibnul Qayyim Aljauziyyah ( May Allah Have Mercy on him)
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In this excerpt Imam Ibnul Qayyim has verv candidly expressed the developmental stages on the process of habit formation.

Passing thought > Idea > Desire > Resolve > Action > Habit

° Celebrate Birthdays?

The questions is: Is it allowed for Muslims to celebrate birthdays? Perhaps, if we elaborate on a few words it will give us the answer.

Muslim: (in general terms) a person who accepts Islam and Islam is the way of life founded on the Quran and the authentic Sunnah (exemplary practice of the prophet) that is perfect and complete and needs no alternations and to make sure that these sources of Islam are understood and practiced correctly a Muslim is to refer to scholars, especially the first three generations, particularly the Companions.

Celebrate: Two of its definitions are: 1. to observe in some special way (as merrymaking) and 2. to observe a special day or even (as a holiday or anniversary) with festivities. [webster’s new ideal dictionary]

Birthday: the day or anniversary of ones birth. [ibid]

Since Islam is based on revelation [the Quran and the Sunnah] we should see what revelations states: Anas imparted that when the prophet (salallahu alaihi wasalam) came to Madinah the people had two days of holiday celebrations. So he asked them about their significance and they replied it was merriment from Jahiliyah. Then the prophet [salallahu alaihi wasalam] rejoindered, “Allaah has replaced them with something far much better: Eid Ul-Adha and Eid Ul-Fitr. This hadith in itself is enough to answer the question concerning Muslim celebrating Birthdays. However, some Muslims asked for further evidence therefore we’ll give some.

Precedents:

Allaah told the prophet [salallahu alaihi wasalam} to say:

Say (O Muhammad to mankind): "If you (really) love Allâh then follow me (i.e. accept Islâmic Monotheism, follow the Qur'ân and the Sunnah), Allâh will love you and forgive you of your sins. And Allâh is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."

Let us make note that Allaah loving us is conditional. He only loves us if we follow the Prophet [salallahu alaihi wasalam]; and if you do not follow the prophet then you do not love Allah and He doesn’t love you. As is presently known, there is not place where it is recorded (not even unauthentically) that the prophet [salallahu alaihi wasalam} celebrated birthdays. He did not celebrate the birthday of Khadijah or Fatimah or Abu Bakr or Zayd or his grandchildren, etc. So if he did not celebrate birthdays, why should we??

The companions who are and for ever will be the best generation throughout humanity due to faith, belief, piety, practice, sacrifices, etc never celebrated anybody’s birthday – not even the prophet’s birthday – and thi sis the man whom they fought for, killed close relatives for, and died for. So it would have been nothing for them to say “Oh Messenger of Allaah, Happy Birthday!” The reason why they did not do this could not have possibly been because it was not a part of their culture. Before Islam, the Arabs appreciated any opportunity to party. The companions did not celebrate birthdays due to their knowledge, wisdom, and understanding of the guidance. We must emulate them for Allah says:

“Whomever opposes/contradicts the Messenger after the Guidance has been made clear and follows a way different than that of the believers, I allow him to continue with what he has chosen and cast him to Hell – an unfortunate circumstance.”

And non of the trustworthy scholars from the past or present who follow the way of the righteous predecessors have condoned the celebrating of any body’s birthday.

“Ask the people of knowledge if you do not know” (Quran: 21: 7)

Based in Polytheism:

The celebration of birthdays is something that doesn’t come from Islam. It comes from Jahilayah (non-Islam: lit. Ignorance) and has origins in Shirk. There were people who thought that the giving of gifts to a person on one’s birthday would prevent the Jin from attaching the person. This is shirk in Roboobeeyah because it is thinking that something other than Allah has authority in His dominion to prevent harm and bestow benefit. The original purpose of the gifts is no different than believe in charms and omens. The prophet said “Know that if the whole world were to gather to benefit you, it would only happen because Allah had it pre-ordained for you. Likewise if the whole world were to gather to harm you, it will only happen because Allah has it pre-ordained for you”. Furthermore, the lighting of candles came about because some people thought that they would take one’s dua’ “Wishes” to Allah. This is shirk in Ulooheeyah because Allah doesn’t need intermediaries.

Following and Imitating the Disbelievers and Being Different from Them

Birthday celebrations are observed around the world. This celebration is done differently based on culture and/or geographics. For example, in china they are celebrated every ten years while in the United States they are celebrated every year. Unfortunately, we are following the disbelievers. The prophet [salallahu alaihi wasalam] said, “You will follow the Sunnah of the people before you, foot by foot, and inch by inch. So much so that if they crawled into a lizard’s hole you would do it also!!” Wouldn’t it be better to follow the prophet’s Sunnah so that Allah will love us?

The celebration of birthdays by Muslims – particularly that of the Prophet’s – is an imitation of the disbelievers. Some Muslims try to argue the point that the prophet Muhammad’s birthday has more right to be “so-called” honoured than that of the prophet Jesus as the Christians do. This point that they tender is an admission that they are following and imitating the disbelievers. The prophet said, “Anyone who imitates a people is one of them”

Additionally, the prophet has warned us on several occasions to be different from the disbelievers.

Some people also try to argue that celebrating the prophet’s birthday will help them remember the prophet. This is really interesting because the people who usually say this are people who do not remember the prophet almost every other day of the year. They harbour misconceptions in Aqeedah, don’t establish Salah regularly, dress provocatively, and do several other things that show that they don’t really care to remember [follow the Sunnah is what we hope they mean by remember] the prophet, and just want to have a day of merriment that gives them a psuedo-sense of esteem and love of Islam. If these Muslims really did want to remember the prophet they would implement his Sunnah everyday of their lives.

Perform Ibadah

Being Muslims we should be extremely proud of Islam. Why have a party? We have been given something better: the aqeedah for our children. The only thing a Muslim could do on a birthday is fast for this is what the prophet did on his. Notice what is said is birthday and not birthdate. The prophet was born on a Monday and he did not – nor did his companions or any of the trustworthy scholars – do anything on the 12th of Rabi Al Awal. “…he was asked about fasting on Mondays to which he responded: it was the day I was born on and the day I became a prophet because revelations was given to me…”

Aside: we should research to find out what our real birth dates are on the Hijree calendar which is based on revelations) and stop thinking we were born on the dates from a synthetic man made calculations.

Conclusion:

Muslims do not celebrate the birthday of anybody regardless of who it is. If we were to celebrate anybody’s birthday it would be that of the prophet and he and so many better Muslims than us did not do such and the companions loved him immensely. So if his birthday is not celebrated why should we celebrate someone’s of lesser worthiness? To celebrate birthdays is heresy. The prophet said: “Anyone who introduces something into the affairs of ours (Islam) will have it rejected”

By: Sister Asiyah S.

About Death...

Man desires life, but, sooner or later, he has to come to terms with death. Just as he is at the peak of his career, death comes and shatters it all. Suddenly, he has to face a world for which he has made no preparation.

Man aims at establishing his own glory on earth, but death comes and demolishes all the delusions of grandeur which he had nurtured, teaching him how powerless he had been before death.

Man wants to be his own lord and master, but his helplessness in the hand of fate shows that he has no control over his destiny.

Man wants to satisfy his desires in this world, but he is foiled by death, which teaches him to seek in the Hereafter the gratification that constantly eludes him in this world.

LOVE, FEAR AND HOPE

One of the most beautiful things about the concept of worship in Islaam is the truly unique way in which it incorporates the feeling of love, fear and hope within the hearts of the worshippers of Allaah. Understanding how to combine these three qualities into the worship (ibaadah) of Allaah is one of the most essential things that every Muslim must grasp, not least because every sect which has drifted from the Straight Path has strayed in the aspect of worship. The deviation of the other religions in this regard is clear for all to see: “God is love! Jesus is love!” say the Christians, denying the fact that Allaah should be feared too. As for the Jews, their hearts were
filled only with hope; hope that the Fire will never touch them, since they were the “Promised People”.

In Islaam however, no worship is complete without the presence of all three qualities: love of Allaah, hope in His Mercy and fear of His Punishment. Contemplate the opening Soorah of the Qur'aan - Soorah al-Faatihah - and you will see this for yourself.

Aayah 1: “All praise [and thanks] is for Allaah, Rabb of all the worlds.”

In this opening aayah (verse) of the Qur'aan, we have LOVE of Allaah and every time we recite this aayah we are testifying to our love for Allaah. How is that you ask?

It is because in the aayah, we are acknowledging that Allaah is our Rabb and the Rabb of all the worlds. Rabb is usually translated as ‘the Lord’, but this translation does not do justification to this name of Allaah and all the meanings this name carries. In reality, Rabb means that Allaah is the Creator of everything; He sustains and nourishes everything; He gives life and Death; anything good that we have is from Him; everything is dependant on Him and nothing can happen unless He wills it. Furthermore, for the Muslims He - the Rabb - in the One who has guided us to the Truth and given us good morals and manners.

Thus when we testify that Allaah is our Rabb, then we are acknowledging that He is the One who has given us so many blessings - so many that if we try to enumerate His blessings, we would be unable to do so. So how could we not but LOVE Him?

After all, we all love those who show kindness towards us or present us with gifts. And therefore the Messenger of Allaah (salla-allahu alaihe wa-sallam) encouraged the exchange of gifts between Muslims because it helps to strengthen ties and develop love for one another. He (salla-allahu alaihe wa-sallam) said, “Give gifts to one another, you will come to love one another.”[1]

So imagine the LOVE we should have for our Rabb who has given us everything: nice families, shelter, security, food, health and above all the Guidance of Islaam and the Sunnah. We should be overwhelming in our love for Him. That is why we praise Him and thank Him and say, “All praise (and thanks) is for Allaah, Rabbil-‘aalameen.”

Aayah 2: The Rahmaan (Merciful) and the Raheem (Mercy-Giving).”

In the first aayah of Soorah al-Faatihah, Allaah mentioned He was the Rabb. In this aayah two more of His beautiful names are mentioned: ar-Rahmaan and ar-Raheem. Ar-Rahmaan means that He is the Most Merciful. Ar-Raheem means that He is the Giver of Mercy, in other words His actions are full of Mercy and He shows Mercy to His creation.[2]

When we mention these two names of Allaah, then we have HOPE. Since He is the One who is full of Mercy, and we hope He will forgive our mistakes and shortcomings. We should never loose hope, because Allaah says in the Qur'aan, “O My slaves, who have transgressed against themselves! Despair not of the Mercy of Allaah, Verily Allaah forgives all sins (except sins). Truly He is Oft-Forgiving, the Most Merciful” [39: 53]

The need to have FEAR in our worship is shown by the next aayah of Soorah al-Faatihah.

Aayah 3: “King/Master of the Day of Judgement.”

When we recite this aayah, we remind ourselves of the Day of Judgement - that awful Day, when all of humanity shall stand before Allaah … naked, uncircumcised and barefooted. People will appear drunk though they are not.
On that Day, every person will stand before Allaah and account for his sins, knowing that not even the smallest action which he did is hidden from Allaah: “So whosoever does good equal to the weight of an atom, shall see it. And whosoever does evil equal to the weight of an atom shall see it.” [Soorah 99 : 7-8]

So when we recite this third aayah of Soorah al-Faatihah, we remind ourselves of this Judgement and accountability and that should bring about in us a sense of fear - that maybe our evil actions will be too great and we will be responsible for them - May Allaah protect us from such a fate. Then the next verse goes on to say: “You alone we worship.” i.e. we single out Allaah for our worship. And how do we worship Him? With LOVE, HOPE and FEAR. And in order to achieve these qualities, we need Allaah’s assistance, so we say then, “We seek Your Aid.”

Striking the Balance

After understanding the need to have love, hope and fear in our worship, the next question that naturally arises is that, in what proportion should these qualities be present in our worship? Again we turn to the Qur'aan for the answer.

“Call upon Him with Fear and Hope.” [ Soorah (7): 56]

“Their sides forsake their beds, to invoke their Lord in Fear and Hope.” [(32): 16]

So both fear and hope should be present in our hearts in equal proportions. Anas reported that the Prophet (salla-allahu alaihe wa-sallam) entered upon a young boy who was dying. The Prophet (salla-allahu alaihe wa-sallam) asked, “How are you?” The boy replied, “O Messenger of Allaah, I am in between hoping in Allaah and fearing for my sins.” The Prophet (salla-allahu alaihe wa-sallam) said, “The like of these two qualities do not unite in the heart of a servant except that Allaah gives him what he hopes for and protects him from what he feared.”[3]

Therefore whenever we do a good action, we should hope that it has been accepted by Allaah, but at the same time we should also have fear that maybe it isn’t enough or that the good deed has not been worthy of acceptance. Likewise when we sin, we should have hope that Allaah will accept our repentance and forgive us, but we should also fear that we may be accountable for it.

This balance should be reflected in our Dawah (which of course is also worship). So when we invite others to the Truth, we should not give them the impression that ‘they have nothing to worry about’, nor do we suggest that ‘they are doomed forever’. Rather we couple warnings with encouragement. We inform them of the horrors of the Fire and tell them about the bliss of Paradise. Just as we find Allaah telling us in the Qur'aan: “Verily your Lord is Quick in Punishment and verily He is the Oft-Forgiving, the Giver of Mercy.” [(7): 167]

And the scholars of Islaam say, “He who worships Allaah with hope only is a murji’ee. He who worships Him in fear only is a Harooree [Khaarijee]. And He who worships Allaah in love only is a Zindeeq [eg. the Soofis, the Christians, etc]. But he who worships Allaah in fear, love and hope is a Muwahhid Mu’min [a believer upon Tawheed].”[4]

The Murji’a were a sect that emerged within the first century of Islaam. The people of this sect (i.e. the murji’ees) believe that sins do not affect faith i.e. no matter what sins a person commits, his eeman (faith) is complete and perfect. They worship Allaah only with hope because they believe that as long as one believed and testified to Islaam, they would enter Paradise regardless of their actions.

Unfortunately, all too often nowadays we find a similar attitude amongst many Muslims today, which is why we find that so often we try to advise someone to turn to the Deen and abandon sin, they just point to their hearts and say, “Allaah knows what is in my heart”, or “Allaah forgives”, or something else like that.

As for the Khawaarij, they worshipped Allaah in fear only because they held that anyone who commits major sins was a disbeliever and would therefore dwell in Hellfire forever. This of course is gross extremism and straying from the correct path. The Prophet (salla-allahu alaihe wa-sallam) said: “There were two men of Banoo Israa’eel who strove equally. One of then committed sins and the other strove hard in worship. And the one who strove in worship cto see the other in sin and kept saying to him: “Desist.” So one day he found him committing a sin and so said to him: “Desist” So he replied, “Leave me by my Lord, have you been sent as a watcher over me?”. He said, “By Allaah, Allaah will not forgive you, nor will Allaah admit you to Paradise”. Then their souls were taken and they came together before the Lord of the Worlds. So Allaah said to the one who strove in worship: “Did you have Knowledge of Me, or did you have any power in what is in my Hands?” And He said to the sinner: “Go and enter Paradise through My Mercy.” And He said to the other: “Take him to the fire.” Aboo Hurairah t said: “By Him in whose Hand is my soul! He spoke a word which destroyed this world and the hereafter for him.”[5]

Therefore we should never say of anyone that he or she is a ‘lost cause’ or ‘doomed’ or the like for this is a great sin. However, we fear for those who commit major sins because they have been threatened with punishment in the Qur'aan and the Hadeeth. However it is up to Allaah whether He chooses to punish them or whether He will forgive them.

The Zindeeqs - or the heretics - are groups, such as many of the Soofis who have become like the Christians and reduced the religion to just ‘love’ and so all their talk and their mystical practices are centred around developing more ‘love’.

It is thus clear how imbalances in any of the three qualities of worship can lead to major deviation and straying to the True Guidance. It is therefore important for every Muslim to combine all three of them in his heart properly. As was mentioned before, the fear and hope should be in equal proportions[6], but as for love then that should be uppermost. As Fudayl ibn-‘Iyaad - rahimahullah - (d.187H) said,

“The love is better than the fear. The fear checks us from sinning, and the love makes us do what is prescribed with an open heart.”[7]

May Allaah grant us what we hope for and protect us from what we fear. And may the Blessings of Allaah be upon our Prophet Muhammed, upon his family, his Companions and upon all those who follow Guidance until the Last Day.

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[1] Collected by Imaam Bukhari in al-Adabul-Mufrad and declared hasan by al-Albaanee in al-Irwaa (1601)
[2] As explained by Ibnul-Qayyim (d.751H) in Badaa’I ul-Fawaa’id.
[3] Collected in Sunan at-Tirmidhi and Sunan Ibn Majah and authenticated by Sheikh al-Albani in Ahkam al-Janaa’iz (no.2)
[4] Quoted by Ibn Rajjab in al-Takhweef minan-Naar.
[5] Collected in Sunan Abu Dawood (english trans. vol.3, p.1365, no.4883). See Saheehul-Jaami (4455) by Sheikh al-Albani.
[6] This was the opinion of most of the Salaf. Al-Fudayl ibn ‘Iyyaad said that, when one is healthy and well, then fear should predominate, but when terminally ill then hpoe should predominate - so that one should strive to do good when well and not despair of Allaah’s Mercy when terminally ill. [Al-Takhweef minan-Naar]
[7] Reported in Al-Takhweef minan-Naar of Ibn Rajab. Note that some scholars hold that the fear is better than love, and Allaah knows best.

The Mindless Dating Game - Happiness or Heartbreak

Many unmarried people these days search for “love” in a series of premarital relationships, which far from yielding happiness, lead to nothing but spiritual degeneration, loss of self-respect, heartache and misery.

When the average girl reaches the age of ten or eleven, she - sometimes with the knowledge of her parents, sometimes without their knowledge - becomes engrossed in and obsessed with the teen romance novel: a blonde, blue-eyed girl, with a perfect figure, falls in love with the football hero of the school, a few complications on the way (nothing major, of course), but things end happily after.

In these novels, girl and boy might hold hands, or there might even be a kiss, thrown in somewhere along the line.

By the time the impressionable reader of these novels reaches her late teens, she is sick of these story lines...and is searching for more.

And is most cases, “more” is usually available right there in her home, tucked away at the bottom of her mother’s cupboard, in the form of adult romance novels.

The holding hands, and the kissing has now made way for much more, as details of pre-marital passion, and the fulfilment thereof are graphically spelt out on these pages.

The reader is told what the “perfect body” is supposed to look like, the notion that sexual intercourse before marriage is sweet and romantic seeps through these pages...the feelings of degradation, and the many possible consequences thereof are conveniently left out.

A fairy tale is a fairy tale, we tell ourselves, a book is a book...they have no implications on real life.

Surely our daughters understand and accept this...

But we are deluding ourselves. These same “harmless” fairytales and books, have a detrimental effect on the thinking, lifestyles and attitudes of our children.

The first “crush”/infatuation our daughters experience in relation to members of the opposite sex, is often linked to false perceptions about “dating,” perceptions to which a wide variety of factors contribute.

And one of the main factors painting a sugar and candy image of pre-marital romances, are these shallow bits of reading material that our daughters are exposed to.

It is no strange co-incidence that girls grow up believing that a boyfriend is the key to happiness...after all they have barely started walking, when the stories of the poor ill-treated Cinderella, saved only by a dashing prince, and the beautiful Snow White woken up by a prince, and the doomed Rapunzel, saved from the tower by...who else - a dashing hero, are told to them.

And when they read romance novels, this theory is further reinforced - for, in the classic teen romance novel, the girl without a boyfriend, or “sweet sixteen and never been kissed” Lips 2is the poor, laughing stock, who doesn’t have a date to the “prom.”

And on the pages of a typical adult romance novel, the heroine is always a successful, beautiful career woman, but, she feels, that “something” is lacking in her life...and that “something” is naturally a man.

It is improbable that the average teenager, would just read these books, and that there would be no impact on her mind.

It is usually exactly the opposite: she wishes she was the person on the pages of the book, and transfers her fantasies to her real life.

She might see someone at school, who is popular, and good-looking [i.e. the football hero], and so begins her first painful crush, which is accompanied of course, by sending him anonymous ‘Valentine’s Day' cards, or calling him and playing songs over the phone.

Shaitaan has set his trap, and the temptation to sin heightens, and each time the temptation is given in to, the girl becomes more daring.

By the time the boy “asks her out,” her nafs has gotten the better of her, and her head filled with the notions of how sweet holding hands before that first kiss must be, she cannot resist.

And so begins a “relationship.”

But this has all the ingredients that a classic romance novel does not....for those candy-coated pages do not tell you about the heartbreak, the tears, the mood swings and the countless negative aspects that are the central to these relationships.

And they do not tell you about the degradation and the loss of self-respect, with which people, especially women, emerge, after these relationships.

For there is no peace, no tranquillity in such relationships. The daily cycle, the moods, everything about the individual is affected.

There is a certain sort of darkness, a restlessness which fills the heart, and this restlessness affects the rest of the family too.

For it is now that all the arguments with the parents start: “Why can’t I go out tonight? All my friends are going?”

And there are the mood swings, the fluctuating eating habits...if the phone doesn’t ring, then it’s a case of “I don’t feel like eating.”

And then there is dishonesty...unable to tell her parents where she really wants to go, she makes the excuse of having to go to the library to study for tomorrow’s test.

The ending of each relationship is most often marked by a long periods of torture, in which the girl has to “get over” the boy.

Everyday life becomes a misery...her marks drop, daily moods start to depend on the current state of her relationship with the boy and many girls, totally misled by Shaitaan, even make dua for a “reconciliation.”

During this period the girl is ravaged by guilt, because deep down in her heart, she is aware that what she has done is haraam, and she also feels guilty about lying to her parents.

If there was a physical aspect to her relationship, then these feelings of guilt are deeply accentuated and coupled with a total loss of self-respect.

In the worst possible scenario, which is frequently happening, the girl, in an effort to improve her “self image,” may turn to various other ways...smoking, clubbing, drinking and drugs...or she may embark on a series of flings just to make herself feel “special” again.

In short the “relationships” so sweetly portrayed in romance novels, which speak only of chocolates, flowers and happiness, end right there: on the pages of the novel.

In real life, such relationships lead to nothing but unhappiness and heartache.

For how can there be any real happiness in a “love” inspired by Shaitaan?

This type of “love” far from being pure and sacred falls into the category of fornication.

And regarding fornication, Allah Ta’ala says in the Holy Qur’aan:

“The woman and man guilty of adultery of fornication, flog each of them with a hundred stripes: let not compassion move you in their case, in a matter prescribed by Allah, if ye believe in Allah and the Last Day: And let a party of the Believers witness their punishment.” [Surah An-Nur:2]

How can there be any long term happiness in a sin for which the punishment prescribed is so severe?

But while keeping in mind the above injunction, we should also not despair of the Mercy of Allah Ta’ala...for we cannot even comprehend the vastness of this Mercy.

We need to realise and to tell ourselves that there is only temporary satisfaction of the nafs in a pre-marital relationship.

And we need to terminate any such relationship which we might be involved in, and sincerely make taubah to Allah.

As difficult as it might be to end such relationships, once we realise and acknowledge to ourselves that the novels to which we are exposed to from such an early age are totally based on a kuffaar way of life, which appears to be very appealing from the outside, but which bears no contentment, no real happiness, it will in sha Allah, be easy to do so.

In addition to painting a rosy picture of dating, these books also create a very wrong concept of what the ideal partner should be like.

It is obvious that since they are kuffaar publications, there is no stress on piety, good akhlaaq, honesty and all the other qualities people should be searching for in a potential marriage partner.

Instead these books promote superficial thinking, with all their emphasis on “good looks,” “ figures,” “star football players,” “smart cars,”etc.

Parents should closely monitor the reading material which their children bring home and should teach their children about the beauty of nikaah.

We should realise, that while it is natural to be embarrassed to discuss such aspects of Islam with them, it is infinitely better for them, that we impart the correct knowledge of an Islamic way of life to them, than allow them to acquire the totally wrong concept of “love” from books, television, movies, and their friends and environment.

It should be explained to each teenager that the pre-marital relationships, the engagements, etc to which we attach such a great deal of importance in this world have nothing but a negative bearing on our lives in the aakhirah.

It should be time and time again instilled into their minds that pre-marital relationships are a sin...nikaah is an ibaadah.

Allah Ta’ala has Created men and women with natural desires, and He has Created nikaah as an institution in which these desires maybe fulfilled.

A nikaah in which both, husband and wife are striving to fulfill their obligations to Allah Ta’ala, such a nikaah will be filled with the mutual respect, love and inevitably, the contentment, which we hopelessly search for in pre-marital relationships.

Within the sacred context of a nikaah, in which both parties are obedient to Allah Ta’ala, and adhere to His Commandments, there can be no room for the loss of respect, feelings of degradation, etc. which goes hand-in-hand with “going out” with or “dating” someone.

We should always bear in mind that should we die in the company of a “boyfriend” or a “girlfriend” we will be leaving this world, having spent our last few moments of this life in the company of a non-Mahram.

Let´s go Fruit Picking!

Despite the end of strawberry season, there are apple, grapes and many more to come - fruits harvesting season during summertime in the north hemisphere. Don’t miss out. Plucking and eating the sweet juicy plum under its tree is really a remarkable experience, especially if it is your first time. So, let’s go fruit picking, as well as fruit eating!

By the way, there are plenty signs of the Creator on fruits. For instance, fruits of diverse colours, tastes, fragrances and sizes produced from the same soil and climate. In the mean time, I used to pick reddish apple, greenly pear and yellowish plum in the same farm. Once at the tropical farm, I used to eat yellowish banana, reddish and hairy rambutan and blackish mangosteen in the same farm.

On the other hand, Allah creates varieties of single fruit. For example, subhanAllah, the varieties of apple are in the following table, which in the seasonal order:

Picking time Variety
Early August George Cave
Early August Grenadier
End August Merton Knave
Mid to end August Discovery
Early September James Grieve
Early September Worcester Pearmain
Mid-September Laxton’s Fortune
Mid-September Ellison’s Orange
Mid- September St. Edmund Russet
Late September Lord Lambourne
Late September Egremont Russet
Late September Golden Noble
End September Sunset
Early October Kidd’s Orange Red
Early October Cox’s Orange Pippin
Early October Bramley’s Seedling
Early October Howgate Wonder
Early October Lane’s Prince Albert
Early October Spartan
Mid-October Golden Delicious
Mid to end October Idared
Late October Orlean’s Reinette

The wide range of various fruits is explicitly mentioned in the Qur’an:

"It is He Who sends down water (rain) from the sky, and with it We bring forth vegetation of all kinds, and out of it We bring forth green stalks, from which We bring forth thick clustered grain. And out of the date palm and its spathe come forth clusters of dates hanging low and near, and gardens of grapes, olives and pomegranates, each similar (in kind) yet different (in variety and taste). Look at their fruits when they begin to bear, and the ripeness thereof. Verily! In these things there are signs for people who believe." (Al-An’am, 6: 99)



So many verses about fruits in the Qur’an with several terms like thamar, thamarat, fakihah, fawakih and jana (fruits), nakhl and nakhil (dates), ‘inab and a’nab (grapes), rumman (pomegranates), teen (figs) and zaitun (olives). There is also thalh (banana tree) as in Ar-Rahman. However, it never limits the vast variety of fruits in the world, the great favour from Allaah the Most Kind.

It is also very amazing by thinking of fruits juicy flesh that originally comes from the tasteless and without Vitamin C fresh water of rain. Definitely, through photosynthesis, fruits determined by the rain, by the nature, which is governed by Allaah:

"And We sent down from the sky water (rain) in (due) measure, and We gave it lodging in the earth, and verily, We are Able to take it away. Then We brought forth for you therewith gardens of date-palms and grapes, wherein is much fruit for you, and whereof you eat. And a tree (olive) that springs forth from Mount Sinai, that grows oil, and (it is a) relish for the eaters." (Al-Mu’minun, 23: 18-20)

Thence, Allah makes a challenge, asking human to send down water from sky as in al-Waqi’ah, 56: 68-69 and al-Mulk, 67: 30. The story of Saba in the Qur’an (Saba, 34: 15-17), lays a great lesson. Since the civilised Sabaean people turned away from Allah, the flood of Arim finally destroyed their great civilization including their gardens and fruits farms. Allah replaced their sweet juicy fruits with the bitter fruits. The utmost conclusion here is fruits are from God. Man sows, plants, sprays, prunes etc, but Allah gives life for it to grow, develop and ripe.

While you are picking and eating the ready-to-eat food created by Allah, try to visualize that you are able to do it in your kitchen, dining room and bedroom. What such of paradise life! Says Allah: "Reclining upon the couches lined with silk brocade, and the fruits of the two Gardens will be near at hand." (Ar-Rahman, 55: 54)

In another passage, Allah states:
"And the shade thereof is close upon them, and the bunches of fruits thereof will hang low within their reach (to be picked)." (Al-Insan, 76: 14)

Now, imagine you are now inside the fruit farm, eating juicy oranges or plum or whatever juicy or thirst quenching fruits you are most like. The juicy flesh mixes with the saliva, stimulating the microvilli on your tongue, which then start making nerve signals. After that, accelerating the signals towards brain.

The brain interprets the signals and identifies the taste. Later they are translated into expression such as "aaah, it’s lovely juicy" or "so delicious, so tangy!" Nevertheless, this is only a tiny speck of provision compared to the universe of provisions in the truly paradise. Paradise life is beyond the dimension of space and time, beyond our imagination.

There is Greatness of Allah behind fruit picking. There are beauties of paradise in hereafter behind fruit picking too. Thus, to reflect ourselves about this impermanent life. Either in the backyard or fruit farm, enjoy fruit picking with our heart and mind! Allaahu Akbar!

(Today just see fruits plantation around my husband´s house, there are Kiwi, grapes, peach and apple, Now think about this matter much).

°°Notes on Friendship°°

I may never see tomorrow; there's no written guarantee.
And things that happened yesterday belong to history.
I cannot predict the future, I cannot change the past.
I have just the present moment, I must treat it as my last.

I must use this moment wisely, for it soon will pass away.
And be lost forever as a part of yesterday.
I must exercise compassion, help the fallen to their feet.
Be a friend unto the friendless, make an empty life complete.
Love is the greatest one that is offered to me.
Thanks to Allaah who send His Love to me.

The unkind things I do today may never be undone.
And friendships that I fail to win may nevermore be won.
I may not have another chance on bended knees to pray.
And thanks to Allaah with a humble heart for giving me this day.

My Best Friend is Someone...
Who The Most Care...
Where I will go, after I die.
Sisterhood,United by Love and Bonded by Friendship.

I am a Muslim Woman!

Woman was made from the rib of man,
She was not created from his head to top him,
Nor form his feet to be stepped upon,
She was made from his side to be close to him,
From beneath his arm to be protected by him,
Near his heart to be loved by him


Until now, we have come to understand some facts about the nature of Adam (peace be upon him)'s creation. We have also come across the mere fact that Ibless had vowed to lead Adam's offspring astray, except those who are chosen and are obedient to their Creator. Moreover, we have learnt that Adam (peace be upon him) was given the knowledge needed to master the earth.

After the creation process and Iblees' refusal to prostrate to Adam (peace be upon him), Adam felt lonely. He would sometimes speak to the angels, but they were preoccupied with worshipping Allah. Hence, as Adam (peace be upon him) was asleep one day, Allah took the shortest rib of Adam (peace be upon him)'s left side, shaped it, and clothed it with flesh. And when Adam (peace be upon him) woke up, he found a woman (Hawa/Eve). Hence, we understand the following verse:
"O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam), and from him (Adam) He created his wife (Hawwa /Eve),and from them both He created many men and women; and fear Allah throughWhom you demand (your mutual rights), and (do not cut the relations of ) the wombs. Surely Allah is Ever an All-Watcher over you". (4:1)

Ibn Abbas and a group of companions narrate that the following conversation took place between Adam and Hawwa: He asked her: "who are you?" She replied: "A woman/(in arabic imra2ah." He asked: "Why have you been created ?" She said: "So that you could find tranquility in me." Then, the angels asked Adam her name, and he said: "Hawwa/Eve." They asked: "Why was she so named?" He replied: "Because she was created from something living (the rib)" (The word Hawwa in arabic comes from the root "hay" meaning alive). (Ibn Katheer's Stories of the Prophets, 16-17)

Subhan Allah! If one notices, the left rib in a human body is that which covers and protects the heart. It had to be a bent, crooked one to encompass that organ. Some people argue that Hawwa could've just been created from dust too or anything else. Yet, Allah's wisdom includes enforcing the feelings of tranquility and affection between husband and wife: "And among His signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect" (30:21)

When a husband truely understands and keeps in mind the origin of Hawwa's creation, how will he ever then mistreat his wife? She is part of him and thus, he will never find tranquility with anyone else but the one Allah has chosen for him. Moreover, the creation of Hawwa directs wives into learning the essence of their creation: Hawwa said: I was created "so that you find tranquility in me". Do most believing women truely keep this in mind ? Do they sincerely seek the tranquility in their lives, peace at home, and affection with their husbands ? A woman knows very well that she has the ability to fill the atmosphere at home with love, care, and tenderness .. and she only has the ability to turn it upside down, if she chooses.

Abu Hurairah narrated that the following are words among our Prophet's last sermon which took place on the 9th of Zul Hijjah, 10 A.H, on the mountain of Arafa: "O people! It is true that you have certain rights over your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under God's trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Treat your women well and be kind to them, for they are your partners and committed helpers" and in another hadeeth: "O Muslims! I advise you to be gentle with women, for they are created from a rib, and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part. If you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked, so I urge you to take care of women." (Bukhari)

It is so beautiful that among the last words of our Prophet (peace be upon him) are words of advice to be gentle with women. Scholars explain that a woman's nature being "crooked" is not a default or disadvantage. It simply means that she has extra-emotions in comparison to men. And that is why she "covers the mans heart and protects it" like the left rib does. She softens his moods when angry, she supports him when tired, and she advises him when he is weak. Al Hakeem has a wisdom behind how and why every single thing is created. It is of His mercy that a woman had to be more emotional, in order to protect the husband, house, and children sincerely. Adam (peace be upon him) was created from dust/soil, since he is going to be dealing with matters of the earth (land, work, etc), while Hawwa was created from the rib that protects the heart since she was meant to deal with matters of the heart that emerge and reflect in her attitude and daily life. Allah Knows best.

° a Beautiful Life...

Each day I'll do a golden deed,
By helping those who are in need,
My life on earth is but a span,
And so I'll do the best I can,
The best I can.

To be a servant of Allaah each day,
My light must shine along the way;
I'll say "alhamdulilah" while ages roll
And strive to help some troubled soul.

The only life that will endure,
Is one that's kind and good and pure;
And so for Allaah's sake I'll take my stand,
Each day I'll lend a helping hand.

I'll help someone in time of need,
And journey on with rapid speed;
I'll help the sick and poor and weak,
And words of kindness to them speak,
Kind words I'll speak.

While going down life's weary road,
I'll try to lift some traveler's load;
I'll try to turn the night to day,
Make flowers bloom along the way,
The lonely way.

Life's evening sun is sinking low,
A few more days and I must go
To meet the deeds that I have done,
Where there will be no setting sun.

Every things that I do for the sake of Allaah.

Dedicated To My Beloved Husband

Dearest…
Perhaps sometimes you might think that you had made a blunder choosing me as your life partner. And this may disturb your daily interaction with me. At times I fear your love will change to detest, your patience will change to anger and that the peaceful situation will fade away.

Dearest…
Perhaps when life goes on to its hectic phase and you find yourself occupied with too much work, you might just not have enough time for me. And times which you should spend with me may get lost. I will sincerely give everything I can to make your life beautiful. But isn’t it fair that I too need your attention? I will look for this attention, but… I fear it might seem unfair and incorrect in your eyes. So please forgive me and give a smile to me.

And in that case, I hope you would appreciate me for my other goodness. Did not Allah who had joined us in marriage and who put love between our hearts say in the Noble Qur’an "O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the Mahr you have given them, unless they commit open illegal sexual intercourse. And live with them honourably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allâh brings through it a great deal of good." [QS An-Nisa:19]

And also Rasulullah’s saying, "The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the best of you are those who are best to their wives." (Tirmidhi)

If you see any fault on my part, remember his (peace be upon him) message to us, “ A mukmin (male believers) should not hate mukminah (female believers), if he doesn’t like something from her action there must be other act that he loves”.

My husband…
You should know there are no human beings who are infallible, only Allah the Most Beautiful is Perfect. It’s not right for you or for me to simply take each others mistakes and weaknesses only into account, while leaving ours aside. I will try to be a loyal partner and always listen to you, but I hope u forgive and forget when I err.

You also should know that Woman was made from the rib of man, she was not created from his head to top him, nor from his feet to be stepped upon. She was made from his side to be close to him, from beneath his arm to be protected by him, near his heart to be loved by him.

I have left my parents and my lovely siblings to be with you. I want you to fill my empty heart with love. Shower me with your love. I will not doubt whom I choose as my life partner. I will admire your taqwa everyday and your taqwa will always make u look the best man for me. I remember a story of the companion of Rasulullah (salallahu’alahi wasalam), Ali Bin Abi Tholib (radiallahuanhu) when asked by a person “I have a daughter, to whom should she be married to?” Ali ra. answered “ She should marry a man who has taqwa in his heart, if this man loves her, he will glory her, but if he doesn’t love her, he will never hurt her.” I hope you are this person.

Perhaps one day we face a dilemma because of my mistakes, at this time you may wish for a better wife. Please be conscious, that selfishness and being inconsiderate can control you in the wrong manner. Please correct my faults with your delicateness and understanding, don’t be harsh towards me because Rasulullah shallalahu’alahi wa sallam was never harsh towards his wives.

My dearest…
Do you know the reward from Allah that you will get in akhirah (hereafter)? Do you know the reward for husbands who act equitable toward their wives? See with your eyes, heart and understand this saying: “They who are equitable, the day of qiyamah will get throne made by the light. They are equitable people, when chastising are equitable towards their wives and people who are their responsibility.”[HR. Muslim]. I pray in order that you are one of them, and I will be your queen in your beautiful palace. I am trying to be the Best Treasure for you both in Dunya and Akhira.

If you have time, teach me with knowledge, which Allah has blessed you with. If you have no time, allow me to obtain knowledge of Islam through other means. However, I will not forget my responsibility as a wife, so that later I can be a teacher for your sons and daughters. Isn’t a mother the first teacher for her sons and daughters? I wish we would teach our sons and daughters together so that they are the flag bearers of Islam and be among the muttaqin. I want to be a pious woman who brings my family to Jannah.

Oh… My Allah The King Who has no Partner!
You are the Witness to this relationship… I had fallen in love with my life partner, make this love toward him increase my strength to Love You. But I also pray that my love towards him should not exceed the love towards You. Make this Love a meaningful one. Protect my heart so that I never forget You. Make his love for me not exceed the love he has for You and make him a martyr in Your cause. Make his love and desire towards me, never forget Your paradise. If my love towards him ever makes me forget You, remind me and guide me…don’t make me one of the losers.

Oh My Allah
You have recognized that our hearts are compatible and that we can love each other. Make us obedient slaves of Yours. Make us both defend Your Shari’ah together. Make this relationship become Strong. Make this Love eternal. Guide us to the straight path. Fill our hearts with Your guiding Light that never extinguishes. Expand our hearts with Eeman and make it beautiful with resignation in Your path. Amin Ya Rabbal ‘alamin.


Your Wife

Dina

Dunia Lain

Terpikirkan bagaimana begitu banyak orang Indonesia yang mengidam-idamkan untuk tinggal di Negara-Negara Kaya, seperti Switzerland, Swedia atau yang lainnya.

Dulu, pernah sih membayangkan begitu bahagianya tinggal dinegara-negara tersebut. Kalau sakit dibayar perusahaan Asuransi, Sekolah gratis, lapangan kerja memadahi, apartemen dan rumah bersih dan mewah, mau makan gampang, mau nabung bisa juga.

Waktu pertama tiba di Switzerland/Swiss, aku kagum... rumah-rumah tertata dengan rapi dipinggir jalan. Pemandangannya unik, bangunan tua yang terpelihara dengan baik, Kotanya bersih dan tertata. Mobil-mobil mewah berseliweran kesana kemari.

Seiring waktu, Aku mulai mempelajari situasi tersebut. Karena keberadaanku disana bisa jadi kesempatan yang tidak semua orang bisa mendapatkannya.

Tiba di apartemen suamiku yang letaknya di area orang-orang Yahudi Ortodox.
Membuka pintu apartemen seluas 67m2, apartemennya tua... tapi barang-barang didalamnya semuanya baru, suamiku menaruh beberapa bunga mawar untuk mempercantik ruangan, "wow, ternyata suamiku punya Nilai seni yang tinggi". Sofa yang nyaman, Dapur yang modern, Lukisan abstrak yang aku gak tau artinya terpampang didinding, Lemari-lemari indah dan Kamar tidur yang mahal.

Aku tak pernah menanyakan dimana suamiku membeli barang-barang seperti itu, sampai pada suatu saat dia bilang bahwa barang-barang tersebut dikasih keluarga teman dia. Yang kakaknya BUNUH DIRI!! karena keluarga selalu punya feeling yang ngeri ketika ingat barang-barang yang semuanya masih baru itu, maka mereka dengan Bahagia memberikannya ke Suamiku. Waktu dengar itu aku kaget... sengaja suami tidak memberitahukannya karena dia tau betul aku rada penakut, dan baru kasih tau waktu kita mau balik ke Indonesia. :D

Di lingkungan tersebut, aku jadi tahu tentang siapa sih orang Yahudi itu... tapi Yahudi Ortodox memang beda. Yang Cowok punya Janggut, trus mereka memanjangkan rambut yang deket dengan telinga "Katanya sih... nanti almasih akan mengangkat mereka dari neraka dengan menarik mereka lewat rambut itu". Mereka selalu pakai Jas hitam dan pakai Topi warna hitam. kalau yang wanita... mereka selalu pakai Rok dan pakai Wig.
Truzzzz... Mereka cuman mandi seminggu sekali. Hari Sabtu!! Sabath Day. hahahah
Kalau ditempat cuci diruang bawah tanah, sehabis dipakai orang yahudi... aku jadi Tau. Karena baunya jadi tidak karuan. Mereka mandi seminggu sekali, Tapi tiap hari pakai Parfum yang Mahal. Ya Bulgarilah, Benneton, Armani atau Kenzo untuk menutupi bau badan mereka.

Salah satu dari mereka pernah tanya ke suamiku, "Kenapa Kamu Pelihara Jenggot?" dijawab suamiku "Ini kan sunnah dari Rasulullullaah the last prophet, dan sunnah dari para Nabi". Truz dia bilang "Kamu akan jadi orang hebat" hahhaha

Namun, yang paling miris adalah para keluarga Muslim disana, dimana anak-anak mereka sudah tidak lagi mengenal Islam. Bahkan aku ketemu sama Muslimah yang besar di Swedia dan kini tinggal di Swiss... gak tau apa-apa ttg Islam. beruntung aja dia masih ingat dengan bacaan Basmalah! Iya cuman bacaan itu saja yang menjadi modal dia kalau dia itu Muslimah. Baca syahadat dlm bahasa Arab aja masih salah-salah. Dia dan suaminya yg kebetulan dari etnis Albania (etnis sama dengan suamiku) punya toko parket 50 meter dari apartmen kami. kita kenalan... trus dia jadi sering maen ke apartemenku. Jadilah diskusi-diskusi ttg Islam. sebenarnya dia itu sangat Pintar!! Lulusan dari jurusan psikologi salah satu Univ di Swedia.

Hingga suatu hari aku mengajak di untuk Sholat Jumat! Pertamanya sih gak mau... alasannya gak bisa sholat. aku janji akan bantu dia nanti. Ok dia setuju.
Jumat itu kebetulan yang ngisi Khutbahnya adalah Ustadz Salafy. Jadi aku semangat sekali, Aku kasih dia baju abaya untuk mengganti baju-baju dia yang super Minim... trus aku tanya mau pake kerudung gak. Dia jawab "Ok" hahahaha

Dia jadi berubah 100%. Tambah Anggun dan Canteek. Masya Allah.

100 Meter mendekati masjid, dia agak gugup! (maklum baru pertama ke Masjid). Dia minta ijin untuk merokok dulu... menenangin pikiran. Aku bilang Jangan... masak udah cantik cantik pakai abaya dan jilbab mau merokok (Maaf aku belum bisa bilang kalau ngerokok itu haram... lawong dawah untuk Tauhid aja masih dalam tahap awal). Dia gak bisa nahan... akhirnya ngerokok juga, Bukan satu batang tapi dua batang!! Ya Allaah.

Ok, akhirnya aku paksa dia untuk terus jalan, karena khutbahnya udah mau mulai.
"Oh God... forgive me... forgive me..." di Jalan dia selalu bilang gitu.

Ok. Sudah sampai di Masjid. Trus aku ngambil air wudhu, aku ajarin dia cara berwudhu juga. (dia Ngusap air ke mukanya dikit banget, takut ngerusak make upnya) hahahha

Trus waktu sholat dia celingak celinguk, ngikutin gerakan Sholatku. Temen-temenku pada heran, ya aku jelasin kalau dia itu begini... begini....

Orang Muslim seperti dia dinegara Non Islam mungkin ada puluhan ribu. yang gak tau apa-apa tentang Islam.

Jadi, Kalau ada Orang Islam yang punya cita-cita setinggi langit untuk tinggal di negara-negara tersebut. adalah Hal yang aneh.

Masjidnya Jauh. jadi Impossible bisa sholat 5 waktu di Masjid.
Mau makan yang Halal agak susah.
Lingkungannya ngeri, Drugs, alcohol and freesex dimana-mana.

Bagaimana dengan Indonesia??
Alhamdulillaah, kita hidup dan dibesarkan dinegara Indoensia.
dimana Pemerintah memberi kebebasan umat Islam untuk menjalankan Ibadahnya.
Masjid-masjid bertebaran dimana-mana, Buku buku Islam mudah di dapat, Makanan Halal mudah.

Memang sih dari sisi ekonomi yang membuat kita tersiksa... I can feel that Very well.
Tapi, kita harus tetap Ikhtiar dan Percaya akan pertolongan Allah.

Nothing is Impossible, Insya Allah Indonesia suatu saat nanti... bisa menjadi Negara Islam Maju yang mengikuti Syariah Islam sesuai dengan jalan Salafus Shalih.

Dari pada di negara-negara Non Islam ituh.... kalau hidup disanaa... ngerasa kalau kita itu hidup di Dunia Lain.